What is it to love yourself from a blokes point of view?
There are memes on Facebook, Instagram or whatever other social media you choose to follow about how you should be loving yourself more. What does that mean?
Let’s start with the mental and emotional stuff. It’s holding your thoughts about and to yourself with the same integrity that you expect from those around you. If you start to accept crapy self-talk and thoughts, it’s like knowingly putting dirty fuel into a finely tuned engine and expecting to get the same performance out of it. The reality is it doesn’t take long before the engine starts to break down and you accept that’s the new normal.
When was the last time you really listened to what you said about yourself? Was it open, honest and caring or was it dishonest, the ‘I’ll be fine’ type statement or berating yourself for making a mistake (I can say I was a master of talking crap about myself)? What those types of statements do is start the internal communication that it OK to be dishonest and unloving with yourself. When you recognise where that self-talk is coming from, you can be open to honest communication with yourself.
When you start the shitty self-talk think about your W.A.I.S.T. – Why Am I Still Talking…
While you’re thinking W.A.I.S.T. also think about how many times have you talked about loving somebody or something, to put them/it on a pedestal to be treated with care and kindness, or asking them how they’re feeling and being prepared to sit, listen, to give advice and guidance when appropriate. Ok, when was the last time you did it for yourself?
When you get a handle on what your own positive and loving dialog is, you can get a handle on what is or is not acceptable from other people.
Loving yourself is also about knowing what really makes you feel great and brings you contentment without stimulants, it could be the things you loved to do as a kid. It might be going for a fish, a surf, maybe heading bush, reading, drawing or music. Now take the time to do it, to honour you by getting into the space of joy and happiness.
It’s also about taking care of yourself physically, including healthy and balanced food habits combined with physical activity of some description. Like going to the gym, a swim, a walk, riding a pushbike or even going to kick the football around in the park with the kids. Release some endorphins and oxytocins AKA the happy hormone and hugger hormone.
At the end of the day if you’re prepared to treat and talk about yourself from a place of love and support you’ll be prepared for others to do the same to you…
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